There are a few items of self-improvement I need to work on. Actually there are many – many, many many. The first sentence, though, was intended to lead into an abbreviated list of the following:
- stop talking (when unnecessary)
- don’t feel the need to justify choices to other people
- address shit head-on directly with the people it concerns
- don’t try to fix other people’s problems
These are all related, although I can’t quite put into words how except as “habits learned from my mother”. I could claim I don’t exhibit these as strongly but that would be a clear violation of the first and especially the second goals.
Because I know these habits are bad, and things like these are easier to see in other people than oneself, I have an urge to jump in and violate #4. In tandem with that is developing the skill to tone down that urge – to choose not to be bothered. Choices can be made to change the long-term reaction and the more practised that choice is the easier it should be to control the knee-jerk reflex and emotions manifested from it.
And being bothered by others when they exhibit this behaviour distracts from being bothered by my own. Self-awareness is pretty selfish in that regard, especially when done for the benefit of others. How egotistical of me to work on becoming less annoying.